Buddhism, Martial arts, Philiosophy

The Ottawa County Winter 2018 Middle Way Meditation Retreat Part 3: Rashomon

Preface: What did being “trapped” at the retreat do for me? The very idea that it was anything other than a retreat colored my perception staining all my thoughts and feelings. Memory and fantasy were shaded and highlighted in ways that seem grotesquely out of focus looking back. My perception of events and the path that led me to that point had to be analyzed through rigorous and correct practice before any understanding, resolution, or growth could be expected.
If you hadn’t guessed already, the two monks and carpenter came to me in the form of books and inspiration. The only way these people would have ever been able to reach me at the retreat.  Surprisingly, there were several books that made their way to me with three, in particular, that I most certainly needed to read before my time at the retreat was over.
Thich Nhat Hanh and his book “Anger” were instrumental in bringing me back to the rigorous self analysis that had given me the self honesty I once had but had lost. It’s still a valuable tool in helping to identify my emotions and my reactions to them and how to express them. There is a stack of letters written to all the Angels of my life. I’ve tried to deliver some. Most will likely never make it to the recipient.  I’ll hold them all and do what I can to get them into the hands of those that they are addressed to.
The Dalai Lama’s “How to Practice” helped me get back to basics and helped me understand that my practice had run off the rails. I had not been using the energy of mindfulness and the concentrated mind correctly. My moral compass was askew and as such my practice had become worthless to me even though my teachings in class were helpful to students. The success in helping my students and saying the wise things I refused to actually practice had inflated my ego and given fuel to my arrogance.  the book also gave me a better understanding and translation of The Heart Sutra” which I had never properly understood or even had a good translation of and as such had never properly communicated it’s meaning to others, especially Angel.
There were dozens of copies of the Holy Bible at the retreat and everyone here wanted to find light and help within its pages. I didn’t look for salvation in it so much as forgiveness. I needed to forgive myself but searched in the book for the will to forgive the people I felt I was a victim of. That false perception of my victim status fell away in the light of truth. I was really only a victim of myself. I think all the victims in this story victimized themselves first and each other second.
This is where perception comes into play. I have seen Rashomon many years ago but never dreamed I’d be deeply embedded in as twisted and fractured a plot as that. So many characters with their own perception of the reality that probably escaped each of us. It’s plainly evident now that the “truth” of any matter is only as clear as your intent when you seek it. I’m still looking closely at my intentions and am careful not to visit that of any others lest I fall into the trap of preconceived notions.


The twenty minute audio recording from August 20th starts with Angel cursing and storming out of whatever room we were in. I had taken to making these recordings not as evidence so much as to have a mirror to show her how important it was to be moderate and get adequate sleep. We were both lost in the clouds you see. I hear myself pleading with her to stop. To sleep. I want to stop the argument and say to her that if she will put her figurative “sticks” down that I will put mine down and we can hopefully stop trying to verbally hurt each other. She likes the idea of sticks and leaves the room.

In the recording I follow and find her holding shinai, a bamboo sword. I pick one up and she begins the attack striking at me over and over while asking if I trust her after she has lied over and over. Each exclaimed question punctuated by the clash of bamboo on bamboo as I parry her blows.  I don’t strike back. I’ve had to do this a lot. At least they aren’t steel swords this time.

The attacks sound vicious mainly because of her tone and questioning. Her kiai in actual practice is never so intentional. Angel’s truth and feelings often came with music and pain. Wrapped in sweet smiles and tipped with venom. Her demands for my truth come with blows and viciously veiled insults.  I sometimes regretted all the training I gave her. She was already expert at inflicting pain when I met her. Her ex husband could testify to that fact if he dared offend the angels child with his own truth. He was always a coward in her recounts of his behavior. I assumed that’s why he stood so long under her assault of pain but perhaps it was love? I don’t and won’t ever know and luckily my time with her in this state was coming to an end.

I had wanted her to be safe, be able to defend herself and to understand that brute strength and size can be overcome with training. The fighting arts taught to her as an act of love and concern were to be part of my pain as much and that of my Angel. I turn off the recording and copy the file into the google drive I’m sharing with my council. Its frightening and sorrowful all at once and it’s only one of many that are here to be used as ammunition in the coming fight. I look at the sword and violin sitting on the love seat facing me. I feel nothing but sorrow. I don’t want to have these things heard by anyone. My weakness and vulnerability are starkly evident in the recordings and my love for her won’t let allow me to hurt her beyond what’s already been done. Nobody should ever know how terrible we were to each other. I won’t expose her to the world like this. These weapons must never be used. If I must I’ll bare the weight of it all myself. Better this way than to drag it all out and face the pain, shame, and suffering it would cause.

I sit back in my seat on the couch where I had been working all morning and look around the upstairs room I’ve been occupying on the farm.  The house is empty, quiet asleep. The sound of the wind and the soft vibration of the space heater sitting on the floor is all I can hear.  I’m alone and free. Away from the retreat and the Little city I had tried to bring to light then divide and conquer but still feeling like a prisoner.  My emotions and the reactions they stimulate are strong but I’m breathing and doing my best. The Retreat has been over for several days but my mind still struggles with the old habit energies I’ve only recently begun to identify and started to deal with in a correct way. I still have belongings waiting for me in my friends basement but I hate going back to that place. So many reminders of my failure, of my terrible choices. So many who know me and what has been said about me. I’ve been struggling to win against someone who I do not want to fight at all and frankly refuse to. I’ll not drag us both through that hell again. My perceptions and those of my Angel don’t match reality and likely never will. Trotting out witnesses, videos, audio recordings, and message threads will only embarrass and cause needless suffering for us both. Time to take a fall for what I love and stop the bleeding. I pick up the phone.

The retreat is the same day after day. The routine is mind numbing at best enraging at worst. Today though, like everyday has been since my visitors came to call, I have my own routine that allows me some semblance of freedom where there shouldn’t be any. The liberty I’ve found and that grows daily can never be taken away. It is a freedom born of correct action and exploration of the self. They can’t stop me from delving deep within myself. They can’t lock me away from the infinite universes that spin and twist in the depths of my heart and mind birthing new ideas and feelings with each heartbeat.

My first task as a beginner on the path was to recognize a fundamental teaching of Buddhist psychology, that the seeds of all emotions, whether labeled positive or negative, exist within me. Some large and some small but all present and inalienable. I can’t just dig them out and toss them away or shut them in and ignore them any more than I could an upset tummy or sore knee. The first seed I recognized was that of anger. It’s very active since I’ve come to the retreat. It’s a very big seed that I had been struggling with for a long time. These seeds rise into the conscious mind when triggered by the phenomena of our world. With them these seeds bring habit energy that is sometimes very strong motivates us to act.  Being unskilled, I had always reacted out of either cultivated habit or the pervasive conditioning given me by my society and environment. These reactions were almost always incorrect and caused a great deal of pain and suffering for myself and those around me. How could I learn to recognize these seeds and their associated habit energy? What could I do to put an end to the damage I do under their influence?

The first monk took time to teach me to breath again and be gentle and compassionate to myself. He said that I should take care of my anger, fear, anxiety, and other feeling in a loving and compassionate way so that their habit energy gets transformed into energy that can help the situation. The concentrated energy of mindfulness would give me this ability and lead to insight.  Compassion being a core to the work.

The other monk took me aside and showed me the divisions of the path I had been walking but not paying attention to. These, in the correct order they are to be pursued are: moral discipline, meditation, and wisdom or more specifically, insight into my motivations and those of others. I had been rigorously pursuing a concentrated mind, hoping for insight while working from a foundation of delusion and incorrect perception. No wonder I was lost. I needed to fix my moral compass.  It should have been obvious to every one involved that there was something very wrong.

My new morality: Help others who need and want it. When I cannot help others, I must do no harm ever.

Simple and to the point.  My individual liberation from the chains of my own suffering was underway and I had been gifted with the time and lack of distraction to begin that process and escape the cyclical existence I had trapped myself in. I started to cultivate a healthy concern for others and set aside my selfishness as I identified it. Turning the self serving and arrogant feelings over and over.  Poking and prodding to find my motivation.  Hopefully, with time a correct practice I could change my perception in a more permanent way building upon this new moral foundation. I still have so much work to do.  Porter boy is waiting that night to walk the fields with me  He’s more interested in me than the birds.  Just as well, I’m not carrying a shotgun.  Its a shakuhachi.  I look but don’t play.  Porter wags his tail.

Respond rather than react. It’s a core principle in how I practice and teach sword arts. The initial demonstration for the new student, after they have learned the basics, is for them to take up a guard or kame. I take one in opposition and do not immediately attack so that their mind squirrels away to something other than me and what’s about to happen. Once I see their mind wander I launch a quick faux attack. The new student invariably flinches into some kind intercepting ward or party to stop my stroke with their weapon. Often they fail but regardless, my stroke never actually lands, instead I transition into a second and sometimes third cut. While my cuts never reach their intended target, it usually serves to make the point to the student. A trained response is always preferable to an instinctive reaction. It’s like this with all things in life.

I will often repeat a movie line: “There are two types of people in this world, trained and untrained. What do you want to be?” Somewhere in loosing our way in the clouds and storm of stress, deceit, and betrayal, I forgot this fundamental truth and stopped applying its wisdom in my life. I was morally broken. Instead of being loving and compassionate, I would use almost any perceived insult or injury to justify my own desire to lye, be divisive, use harsh language, cultivate wrong views or harmful intent, and to engage in sexual misconduct.  I was acting like an animal.  Like a monster.

Correct action, morally correct action, is a foundational principal in Buddhist psychology and part of the All Japan Kendo Federations “Concept and Purpose of Kendo.” In Buddhist practice, the training, is to allow the mind to concentrate in the present moment and recognize and accept the truth of our suffering, its causes, and the way to be free from it. A concentrated mind is a powerful and energetic tool to create change and contrary to the common teaching is completely possible to obtain while under the influence of various substances. However, a concentrated but morally broken mind is a danger to every one who encounters it.  My failure was that I had completely skipped over a crucial and necessary first step in the way. I had neglected to establish a firm and correct moral foundation for my concentrated mind to work from. Without this my sword cut a swath of pain through almost everything that I loved and held dear while my music bearing fallen Angel played the devils fiddle for our finally.

I had deluded myself into believing that my actions were always justified and that I was constantly correct and doing only that which was right. The suffering and pain others were enduring was, to my warped perspective, entirely of their own creation and something they needed to fix on their own. I could never be bothered to concern myself with others or their struggles. There was a mission to accomplish. Suck it up and drive on. This delusion would soon be swept away and the reality of the five remembrances would hit me like a ton of bricks fashioned into a box that I’d help lock my self inside of.

We had recently lost our home and livelihood when our employer dismissed us based on rumor, speculation, and my hardline stance against allowing a known pedophile on my he premises. We were dismissed and told that we would never be paid for the time and work we had agreed to be compensated for. The blow was stunning in that it had come from a person we both supported and loved. We had poured everything we had into this dream and our pride had allowed us to pit ourselves against people with a more solid foundation in the community than I had imagined. My fervor for growth and change had set our organization on a collision course with others in the community.

I had gone so far as to feed information to the press and public about the leadership of a particular city beaurocracy and labeled them as pedophelia apologists. As Director of Operations and Business Development for the Foundation I used my broad authority to begin initiatives within the Temple to directly compete with the business operations of those who I saw as my competitors an detractors. I’ll leave my rant about the merits of competition and the strange protectionist mindset of this part of the nation to another post.

Regardless, I was in full battle mode with the pain and anger over the eviction and dismissal fueling the emotional storm that raged between my Angel and I, giving the monsters we hid all the more strength and influence over our actions. Our relationship turned toxic and wrapped in my own suffering I never took a moment to try to elevate the obvious suffering that Angel was enduring. The potions were exacting a terrible toll on her mind and spirit and lack of sleep coupled with exposure to the hostile environment our home at the temple had become compounded the paranoia that my lies had given birth to. Angel saw danger everywhere and in my own delusion I was becoming less trustworthy be the minute.

The first time I donned my bogu (armor) for kendo practice and told Angel to strike men uchi (top of my head) she struck like she was hitting me with a feather duster. I encouraged her with kind but firm guidance to trust me and my bogu. That I would be safe. Angel cried like a baby. She couldn’t let go of the pervasive conditioning of her childhood and trust that this was safe and that I would not put myself in harms way or allow her to hurt me unnecessarily. I also think that perhaps she had trouble trusting herself.  This is speculation though.

At the time I’d not known the lengths she would go to to punish a love that disappointed her. I didn’t understand the self punishment that she would inflict upon herself or the impact it had had on her family and all of her romantic relationships up to and including her relationship with me. I was sadly unaware. I was trying to help my wife understand and enjoy a sport, art form, and practice of personal cultivation that I used to help me be a better person.  I was sharing myself with her and showing her that vulnerability is a gift that I was willing to give to her.

I can’t speak to her feelings or motivations. I only know that it was over a year till she could start to tell me all the truths that were causing her such suffering and by then my own incorrect perception had skewed my vision and my lack of skill and understanding made it impossible for me to actually listen with love and compassion.

I’m not sure if it was too late to save her by his time. The mistakes we made were legion and at the time I could only see those working to destroy what we had led the effort in building. Everything I was was filtered through the lens of selfish intention and greed. My Angel also seemed to be seeing everything and everyone with eyes that didn’t see as they once did. We felt surrounded and set upon by enemies from all sides. Only a handful of loyal supporters stood by us as we readied ourselves for what we felt might be our last stand. We couldn’t see straight. If we had perhaps we could have saved ourselves from the disaster looming before us, so terrible in scope and aspect that we refused to look. Our delusion gave us a false sense of hope that would be our undoing.

If you do this
If you do this you’ll never have a chance to try again
If you do this you’ll never have a chance to try
It’s the same sound
Same sting
The same collapse
Of every thing
It’s the same size,
Same blade,
The same lie
-Otep, Perfectly Flawed
Buddhism, Martial arts, Philiosophy, Religion

The Ottawa County Winter 2018 Middle Way Meditation Retreat Part 2: Here There be Monsters


I am very aware of my own nature and predisposition when it comes to confrontation.  I will always avoid a fight.  I’m fond of the saying: “He who fights and runs away, lives to run away another day.”  That comes from television or cinema in the distant past or maybe future. Regardless, I never enter into trouble without knowing that I can get out faster than I got into it.  I’ve made it to nearly forty before I finally got caught and not even for something that should have landed me in jail. At least not alone. I have to be backed into a corner or defending those I love before I’ll engage in confrontation.  I regularly pick up my hat, jacket, keys, and wallet and high tale it for the door during an argument.  My friends, those that really are friends, have all seen me do it when Angel was on the war path.

Unfortunately,  I have been sadly unaware of my intentions and motivations when it comes to love and relationships.  This is a failing that has plagued me for almost twenty years and has been the primary factor in the failure of what is now three marriages and nearly a dozen relationships that never made it to the altar.  My tendency to pack and run from trouble has ended some.  Those were obviously toxic.  Some of the less obviously toxic relationships lingered on while I struggled to keep a lid on things. Never recognizing the hidden intentions and pervasive conditioning that drove my self destructive behavior and would ultimately end the relationship.  However, I was always ready to identify those things in others.  It was very arrogant and hypocritical in hindsight but gives me hope that since I can easily see these things in others that I’ll be able to see them within myself now that I choose to look and take care of them.

We all carry these subconscious intentions and pervasive conditioning.  The behavior associated with them becomes habitual to the point that we are often completely blind to the fact that we are acting in a purely destructive manner towards ourselves and those we love.  My time at the retreat gave me ample opportunity to examine my motivations through the new moral lens I was fashioning.  The view I found of myself and in hindsight of Angel was frightening and very sad to behold.  This is why I have named the individuals acting on these intentions and conditioned reactions “Monsters.”  I can think of no better way to describe something that walks, talks, and acts for all the world to see like a human but whose actions are entirely bestial and driven by passion and anger.

Below you will find my account of the care and feeding of my monster and the pain and suffering it was partially responsible for.  While I’ll refer to it as “The Monster” it is in reality just me.  The selfish, lying, deceitful, lustful, passion and fear driven me.  The other half of the equation is Angel’s Monster.  I cannot speak to its origins or how it came to find mine and fall in “lust” but I can say that it was indeed every bit as real and active in our destruction as I was myself and has it’s own grotesque and sad history that may be a tale for another time.  Regardless, my actions and those of my dastardly alter ego are  the ground upon which I stand today.  I shall reap what I have sown but then again, so shall we all in the end.

The Wizards Third Rule: Passion rules reason.         -Blood of the Fold, Terry Goodkind

The Wizard’s Sixth Rule: the only sovereign you can allow to rule you is reason. The first law of reason is this: what exists, exists, what is, is and from this irreducible bedrock principle, all knowledge is built. It is the foundation from which life is embraced.”                                                         -Faith of the Fallen, Terry Goodkind


We always acknowledged to each other that we shared all of the same vices.  We loved to overindulge in good booze, good food, good drugs, and the most intense sexual extremes imaginable. There are many a broken bed and thrashed mattress to testify. It stands to reason that I knew that Angel was lying as surely as she knew that I was.  We are really that much alike.  The mirror that I was for her and she for me is still frightening to stare into for very long.  The intentions and motivations I see in her actions are echoed in my own.  They don’t repeat themselves exactly, but they do tend to rhyme and have a similar chord progression.  Perhaps that’s why it has been so easy to run? Away from the mirror but able to hel and grow. Her departure with such finality and precision is truly a work of art. Something I can admire for its strategic grace and finality. It was a coup de grace worthy of the master I’ve always known lived inside her intentional or not.

I remember when the monsters first made their appearance on the main stage of The Temple. We had each been hiding them. Each been nurturing and helping them grow. Secrets are the womb and we both kept them growing within us. I kept a scared broken beautiful songbird who couldn’t admit to loving me. Angel had a deceitful lover who could bring water to the masses but spent his time watering other flower beds. We each held them in in confidence for our own motivations. I kept my little birdie because I’d promised to be of aid when her cage started to close on her but also so that she could see the amazing life I was building that she could have been part of. It was hurtful and an apology has been given. Angel’s motivations are her own but I never believed her simple and matter of fact explanations. She was too confident and stern in their delivery, almost like making a cut. The statements always had too much intention associated with them. We each tendered the support we had promised reaping whatever perceived benefits we could and when the truth came round to show us our lies we bid each of these old friends that were more than friends adieu. We then calmly took what remained for ammunition to be held forever in reserve.

We exposed a tiny bit of our souls but not too much for fear of exposing the rest that was hidden. Neither of us made the choice to give our partner the gift of the shidachi and allow the other an opportunity to gain practice in forgiveness through an act of faithful, truthful vulnerability. I kept another woman close who’d fallen in love with me and kept constant watch, waiting to take action for good or ill. Angel kept a handful of lovers flames and couples. Two who had involved her in love triangles and other rendezvous which she later expressed a great deal of shame about. I could never see a reason for shame beyond the lie. There were men. A disgraced choir leader among them who talked like a lover and whom I’d been seated with and invited to enjoy drinks. The fellow told me what a lucky guy I was. The fact that she would parade me around without telling me what was happening is what hurt most. She also kept a woman who in particular was a “good friend” that got to hear about all of our triumphs and tragedies, successes and struggles. Somebody that could be confided in and spoken to sweetly like a sister or sister-wife because that’s how ladies talk to each other when they love or are in love. Somebody who would kindly send her salutations to me via my Angel’s own lips as if to inform me of her claim to them. They were held but my monster was .

I can’t say why the lie was so obvious but it never had even the slightest ring of truth as it echoed in my head and heart every day from then on. The monster who lived in me shouting to amplify the blatantly obvious falsehoods and contradictions and helping to magnify the dull pain that it created. A pain that turned to anger and feaf that displaced compassion and closed my heart and mind. Making it impossible to listen or to trust. There would be no more trust for Angel after that and it would be a constant point of contention. She wanted the trust but knew deep in her heart that it wasn’t correct and just that she should have it or want it. No more so than the trust I wanted but never received. I could have been more aware of our suffering. Something I needed to learn to do.

I wasn’t aware of the damage being done. I only knew that I sensed something but could never look at it directly. It was like a shadow that I only ever caught a glimpse of. I was in a state of denial. I could have and should have given and demanded the truth and the consequences it would bring. I could have walked away before things got so far out of hand that casualties would become inevitable. I can say today that the half seen shadow was the monster lurking behind those brilliant wings sent from heaven to comfort and sooth. The beast that cast the shadow was a creation born of lies and delusions that we told each other and to ourselves. It wasn’t something I wanted to believe existed and it wasn’t something she wanted me to see. The shame of its previous rampages leaving a trail of broken hearts minds and bodies. A permanent legacy of shame that would poison our relationship as surely as cyanide. My fear and anxiety wouldn’t let me call either demon for what they were and that lack of initiative painted the same target on me that my Angel’s first husband wore and does to this day. Telling Angel that something had changed only served to provoke the creature which would call out to its twin and together they would dash into the maelstrom of anger we’d both created in a headlong rush to crucify each of us. It should have ended then, we could have taken a mindful breath but we had just adopted our baby Porter boy and we could easily delude ourselves by turning from the withering vine of our love and bask in the joy that came wrapped in brindle fur and floppy ears and the unconditional love that we both longed for.

Eventually, way moved on to way and dawn went down to day. We found ourselves far from the grey eastern ocean living at the bottom of a far more ancient one that had yielded to grass and wind millennia ago. The dirty little city we had hastily chosen as our landing pad didn’t hold any joy or peace for us and the ancient ocean had long since given up its life to the grass that stretched from horizon to horizon. We were both creatures of the sea and started to whither like the grass in the blazing August sun. The plains stretching as far as the eye could see the grass a waving blanket beneath a azure bowl upturned to keep the clouds from racing off into the void. The sky was the biggest feature here going on forever as if to emphasis the fact that no matter where we went or how fast we went, we wouldn’t be going anywhere fast. The towns people were little more than slaves to their vocation and their possessions and could barely see beyond their next paycheck. Each of them a ravenous creature with a hole just like mine in their soul. Eager to grasp and devour anything or anyone that they could get their hands on. We hated it. I hated it, recognizing the kinship I had with these devouring creatures. Angel saw it as well and her eyes and heart continued to harden and grow cold.

Our lies still echoed in my head and with the lies came suspicion, doubt, anger, and fear. All products of the little beast living inside me. Growing bigger with each reiteration of the lies and each promise of fidelity that was broken before it left the lips. There could be no trust and without trust the beast hiding behind those heavenly wings grew as well, fed by her indignation and self hatred and my lies. The twin beasts calling to the growing abomination that lived within the other. The thing filling a void with anger, fear, anxiety, and suspicion. Looking for more. Hungry and insatiable.

We were being less loving day by day but we filled our time with work and practices. Rushing about creating new work to busy the mind and hands. Art and music, steel and strings, food and alcohol, sex and drugs. Another little fur baby and my own babies now came to fill our home with laughter and joy. I could almost forget the lies when I held my little ones close. When I closed my eyes and didn’t look at Angel. There could never have been any trust from either of us. Not in the sea of grass not with her refusal to give me the truth despite dozens upon dozens of opportunities. The time for truth had passed. The secret had to be kept for whatever reason. As for the loving watcher, I made no secret of her or her feelings. She even made me immortal in her own way and I reveled in the suffering it caused my Angel. Her watching had paid off and saved my children from loosing their father. It wouldn’t be the last time the watcher stepped in to save the day. True loyalty knows no bounds when love is true. Even if it’s unrequited and left in the cold, it rises to defend its object when hate and anger threaten to eclipse the sun.

From a tiny dream of flashing steel was born the chance to build greatness in a place where only grass and lust would grow. A cake could be baked but not without a proper kitchen and the kitchen had to be saved along with the Temple where the group following the way cut their way through egos an preconceived ideas that their teacher clung to and deluded himself for. We found a holy place to sacrifice our love to the gods of fear, lust, anger, anxiety, jealously, pain, and desire to name only a few. I found a balm to numb the pain and anger, a dream so grand and in need of such devotion that I could forget the lie and throw myself headlong into a self destructive labor of love. Love that I hadn’t known I still had. Love I thought the lie had poisoned. Love that wasn’t love at all. Only an illusion spawned of the monster who had found a new home with its demonic counterpart. They could rampage around our holy place to their hearts content and drive Angel and I apart inch by inch with whispered jabs to the ego and pride. Porter boy left us not long after. Anger and a dogs desire to swallow just about anything was his ticket on the express. I wish I’d have joined him.

I convinced myself that it was all for Us. That we were doing the greatest good in a place that needed it most. That we could poor all of the love and light we had into creating this shrine for the community that didn’t deserve it but desperately needed it. We did everything we could. Sacrificed all we had and more. We left nothing for the return trip and nothing to sustain our fading love. We gave up home and livelihood to take a tiny apartment and promised wages that never came. Angel clung to her lie and I drifted further up the stairs into my work. Doing just as I always do, build something grand, even if it’s on the ashes of a dying fire. Build something so I can hide from the pain that sleeps in my bed.

Something grand was indeed what we made in that once holy Temple. Everything we touched bloomed like a rose or turned to gold. The halls sprang to life with light, music, and laughter. The kitchen churned out far more than just cakes and the old dying edifice awoke to a new and exciting life that pulsed within. A life sustained by our dwindling love and fading spirits. A life eager to feast on all we as left and remained thirsty for more. A life that fed the twin monsters that repeated the lies in my ears and eventually led me into the witch’s arms to eagerly drink up the vaporous potion she brewed and demean myself with her body and spirit. Use her and ignore her. She was something else to fill the abyss. The void where the lies didn’t echo so loudly any more. The flesh and potions filled more space than any food or drink. The danger and the satisfaction gained from exacting unknown vengeance. Vengeance that would be revealed only after my Angel had to endure the frustration and pain I had. Only after she asked over and over again a question she knew the answer to. I would do unto her as she had done unto me and this perpetuate the cycle of pain that we had both existed in before we ever knew each other.

The potion had an amazing effect on my productivity and I attacked problems and projects with unbridled furry and determination, throwing myself into each task, competing it and rushing headlong into the next. I found others with vision and spirit and with the help of the potion they also began to carve success out of those stone walls. Each one lost in their own desire and poisoned by the feted spirit of that ancient tomb. The work was correct but without compensation or

With the witch’s secret embrace and her constant supply of the potion I felt like a one man army. I pressed every bit of potential from every possible outlet I could find.  I motivated others to pursue their dreams and fed them potion to fuel their passions.  The Angel did her magic as well and together we pushed the limits of what anyone believed was possible for only three full time workers and a handful of volunteers. The created amazing spaces filled with art, music, and comradeship. Nobody knew how much actual effort and energy was being expended to make even a tiny bit of progress. Nobody ever would. We were ducks on a pond, gliding effortlessly across the surface. Even our benefactor could t see how hard our legs were pumping and kicking. We just seemed to make it all happen.

Eventually, as I knew she would the angel found the potion. The witch had left but the potion was still available. She hated the lie that hid it from her but after sampling the concoction she used it more eagerly than most. It was a different kind of spirit that didn’t agree with Angel. She never New the extent of the lie or it’s scope and lost her way quickly in the clouds. This was the beginning of the end for my Angel and I and signaled the height of our monsters dominance and power. We were not in control any more. Angel became powerless to control the influence of the potion and floods of memories and emotions washed us both far off the path of Doshikai. We were lost and adrift. My compassion and loving ear was gone and without them the truth that poured from my Angel did nothing but cut, bruise, and worry me. Eventually, my weakness in the face of such terrible truths turned her against me. I wasn’t a pillar of strength any more. I had become her whipping post and in exchange she became mine. Over and over we re-enacted her trauma and I foolishly let myself be cast in the role of the villain, the perpetrator of unspeakable horrors and tortures.

This wasn’t the end though. It was just the beginning of our destruction and rebirth.

It took so long to remember just what happened
I was so young and vestal then you know it hurt me
But I’m breathing so I guess I’m still alive
Even if signs seem to tell me otherwise

I’ve got my hands bound
And my head down,
And my eyes closed
My throat’s wide open

I do unto others what has been done to me
Do unto others what has been done to you

-Tool, Prison Sex

Martial arts

Saya Biki

I recall hearing the term saya biki quite a bit when I began my practice of Iaido at Doshikai.  Eventually, I came to accept that the term referred to the movement of the saya during nukitsuke.  Over time, my perception of saya biki has come to also include the movement of the saya between nukitsuke and kirioroshi as well as the movement of the saya during noto.  These saya movements serve multiple functions and are often integral to being able to properly perform correct waza.  Within the framework of Zen Nippon Kendo Renmei Iai, saya biki and its proper application is fundamental and myriad.  As such,  a narrow examination of saya biki in Ipponme Mae will serve here as indicative of the system in general.

In the scenario presented in the All Japan Kendo Federation English version of Zen Nippon Kendo Renmei Iai, for the kata Ipponme Mae, “Detecting the harmful intention of the person in front of you, forestall it by using the sword tip to cut his/her temple in a horizontal action and then bring the sword downwards from above the head in a vertical action.”  As part of the instruction for the kata, saya biki is noted but never specifically named or explained.  It is only with practice, proper instruction, and correction does the importance of saya biki begin to reveal itself.

At the opening of the kata, the sword is drawn and rotated to cut horizontally across the opponents face at the level of the temple.  This drawing cut is nukitsuke.  Drawing a properly sized sword from the scabbard would be awkward if not impossible without the rearward movement of the left hand.  The drawing motion is two-fold; the sword is drawn from the saya while the saya is simultaneously drawn off the blade.  The long, broad muscles in the back are engaged as the core is thrust forward adding authority to the cut.  The left hand on the saya and the right hand on the tsuka continue in a single movement until the completion of the horizontal cut when they end in unison.  The result is that the saya ends its motion pulled sharply back with the kojiri pointing to the right.

During furikaburi, the sword is raised over the head in a thrusting motion directed behind the left ear and up.  The left hand on the saya moves as one with the right bringing the saya forward to a position in front of the navel and then grasping the tsuka at the level of the chin/ear.  The kata continues with both hands on the tsuka from the completion of furikaburi, through kirioroshi, and into chiburi.  At the completion of the vertical cut, kirioroshi, both hands are on the tsuka.  As chiburi is initiated, the left hand moves to rest flat against the hip where the saya passes through the obi.  The left hand remains there until the end of chiburi.

Iai Goshi is a demonstration of Zanshin or awareness and is a prescribed element of the remainder of the kata.  During noto, sheathing the sword, this awareness is demonstrated through proper saya handling.  The sword is sheathed rather than the sheath being sworded.  The practitioner must be aware of the position of the sword as it is drawn across the top of the left hand between the forefinger and thumb.  As the blade passes over the opening or koiguchi the left hand grasping the saya around and a little past the opening of the saya is moving back along the line of the obi until the tip of the sword falls into the saya opening.  The muscles in the back and chest are engaged in this motion and reverse direction to bring the saya and sword together ending with the tsuba in a position in front of the navel.  The thumb of the left hand comes to rest on the tsuba and the practitioner assumes taito shisei and completes the kata.

Saya biki is integral and persistent throughout this and all of the ZNKR kata.  It is necessary for proper and correct waza and as an expression of awareness and bearing giving balance to motion and allowing a better economy of motion in the performance of kata.


Martial arts

Metsuke in ZNKR Kyuhonme-Soete Zuki

Metsuke as it applies in Iaido is where the eyes focus during kata and the intention expressed in the gaze.   Per the scenario presented in the All Japan Kendo Federation English version of Zen Nippon Kendo Renmei Iai for the kata kyuhonme-soete zuki, “You are walking along, when a person suddenly appears from the left with the intention to attack you.”  The kata begins with three steps starting on the right foot.  The attacker is noticed at the initiation of the second step.  The eyes lead the head and start to turn as the hands take hold of the tsuka and the body begins to turn left towards the attacker.  The third step is only a half step used as a pivot to continue the turn.  The initial cut, a kesa cut from the right shoulder to left abdomen initiated during the turn and is completed when the left foot steps back.  The gaze that initiates the turn and precedes the cut must be strong enough to support the seme or pressure that is being applied on the attacker and focused directly on the imminent threat while still being wide enough to see the entire situation and not give away the intended target.

After the initial cut, the attacker is directly in front with the blade in their gut just above the left hip bone.  Metsuke is still directed forward at the attacker, focused in a wider way on the entire threat while still intense and pressing.   The right foot pivots slightly and steps back half a step into soetezuki no kame with the sword grasped with the left hand between the thumb and forefinger.  This is done with the hand held horizontally along the omote side at a point about midway up the blade.  The hand and sword are parallel to the ground.    Metsuke is still supporting seme which is forward despite the rearward movement.  The sword is then immediately thrust into the attacker’s abdomen as the left foot steps forward past the right.  The motion ends with the blade thrust into the attacker and parallel to the ground at the level of the navel.  Metsuke is still forward on the attacker who is standing with the blade deep in them.

Metsuke and the intention of the act remain with the attacker as the blade is withdrawn   The left hand does not move as the right hand withdrawals the blade first slightly rearward then by raising the right hand to chest height blade rotated over the fingers of the left hand with the point down and the edge facing down and to the right.  At this point Metsuke broadens in focus as it follows the body to the ground.  The gaze should be far away but present to support zanshin.  It remains thus through migi ni hiraite no chiburi, and noto.

Metsuke changes when taito Shisei is assumed.  The gaze is raised back to forward head level and does not change as the three withdrawing steps are taken.



Reiho is often defined as etiquette, respect, or courtesy in English. I have often described it as such when trying to explain the concept to those who do not practice a form of Budo. In his blog, Geoff Salmon defines Reiho as the physical component to Reigi; the Japanese concept translated and defined in English as etiquette. I prefer this definition. Drawing a distinction between the physical components of proper etiquette does not diminish the fact that fundamentally even the smallest acts of Reiho can demonstrate the essence of Reigi.
When understood to be a physical manifestation of etiquette, Reiho can be seen to permeate every aspect of the art of Iaido. The proper layout of a dojo, the correct fit and wear of the practice clothing, how we wear the sword, how we clean the sword, our very hygiene, posture and even the way we place our thumb on the tsuba while wearing the sword are all forms of Reiho. Every action during practice should be approached with the attitude that even in the smallest actions; the total sum of proper etiquette should be expressed.
The most obvious expression of Reiho to the outsider is bowing. This is the classic example for most westerners of Japanese martial etiquette but is rarely understood for what it truly is. The bow as stated earlier when performed with proper humility, respect, and intent can embody all that is true of etiquette in Iaido. The Iaido practitioner who understands etiquette will always bow more deeply to those who are their seniors in the Dojo. They will also hold the bow for an instant longer than those who are more senior. These physical manifestations are not a form of worship, as has been improperly asserted by some, or an act of submission. They are a signal to those who know that this individual is not only ready to receive the teachings imparted in the dojo but that this person takes their practice seriously and has begun the process of internalizing the basic concepts of the art. Budo can be dangerous if practiced without the proper attitude and concentration. Proper demonstration of Reiho is also a signal to others that the practitioner understands the importance of following direction and is unlikely to do things to put others at risk during practice. The bow as an act of correct Reiho will demonstrate correct Iai.
To me, Reiho is also means by which I can demonstrate my sincere gratitude and desire to learn. It is a defining element of my practice which necessitates that I strive to learn and understand more about this complex concept that can be so hard to define. I was once told that the waves on the ocean are not fundamentally different from the ocean as a whole. That the ocean is waving at us all the time. Reiho as a fundamental aspect of the practice of Iaido can demonstrate the very essence of Iaido when performed correctly. From the instant we enter the dojo, with every breath, movement and thought, we strive to demonstrate Reiho and the essence of Iaido.